Why can't we take it on the chin.

I have a lot of writing to do. I think I'll be OK apart from two points, both related funnily enough to communication. One was where someone was a little bit disigenuous in the meeting to take criticisim off her, another where we were blaming each other for a communication failure.

I'm going to have difficulty writing these bits up with an adequate degree of fairness to all parties. I've been a bit irritated by both; why don't people take it on the chin? It would deflate your worse critic to say "I'm sorry, I messed up, the next person will just have to do better."

But then, I thought some more and realised the main reason I was irritated was the spined version looks badly on me as HR person and secretary. It downgraded much of the effort I'd personally made to get information out to others, and made the weak link look like it was with me, not with them. So on the surface of it, my irritation was not with any spin, but in my own hurt pride.

I'm sure I've made mistakes, there were things I never got round to that I should have done with fundraising. However if you ask me about it I am usually quick to point out any mitigating circumstances, not matter how small.